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Supporting mums of disabled children & those with additional needs.

 

Do you want to feel confident in meeting your child’s health, education and social needs following their diagnosis?

Are you feeling overwhelmed and frustrated by a broken system?

Let’s help you to claim your confidence as a woman and a mother so you’re enjoying life at your best and giving the best of yourself to your family.

  • Practical strategies to support you and your child with the challenges they face.
  • Ensure that your child is thriving without you facing burnout.
  • Manage your emotions and mindset for a worry-free tomorrow.

Introducing ‘More Than a Mum: The Empowerment Pathway’ – COMING SOON

This was me when my son was diagnosed. Does it sound like you too?

 

  • You feel overwhelmed & anxious about the future, compare your life to others, wonder who you are, and struggle to switch off and enjoy life.
  • You want to feel in control and confident during appointments, assessments, and big decisions for your child, but a broken education and healthcare system makes this difficult.
  • You want to ensure your child has all they need so that they, and you, can thrive and be happy!
     
    You deserve this and more!
     
    Having clarity, confidence and contentment makes a huge difference in your parenting journey.
     
  • Coordinate your child’s care, support, and development to reduce stress and delays.
  • Feel present in the moments that become great memories and proud of your child’s achievements.
  • Enjoy some guilt-free fun and purpose outside of your role as a mother.

I want to help you get there without wasting precious years on self-doubt and worry.

This is your invitation to experience ‘More Than a Mum: The Empowerment Pathway’.

  • Together, we will transform your mindset into one of confidence and contentment and give you practical skills to support your child’s development.
  • You will find peace and acceptance in a life you may not have expected, become an assertive and proactive advocate, and reconnect with who you are as a woman.
  • You will compare less with others and thrive more in your own life.

Are you ready to become More Than a Mum? Join the waitlist here.

How can we do all that?
 

  • Recorded sessions to develop your emotions, advocacy and time for yourself and others.
  • A private online space to ask questions of your mentor and find peer support.
  • A wonderful community of mums who also live a life altered by disability who truly understand, support the struggles, and celebrate the wins.
The best part?

You can choose which sessions you would like to explore and create a bespoke package that suits your needs right now without having to sit through sessions that you don’t need right now. Alternatively, you can buy the total pathway and save some money on the buying the sessions separately. The idea is to give you flexibility and choice.

You get support from me every step of the way, so you never feel alone in processing and dealing with the challenges and wins in life and you won’t look back at the early years with regrets and self-doubt about your parenting.

Your Pathway to Empowerment!

Sessions are pre-recorded so you can watch in your own time and not feel pressured by live workshops or stressed if you miss them. Life happens!

  • Welcome and Overview
  • Important concepts

The following sessions are no longer than 30 minutes each and most have a resource attached. For some this will be a reflective task and for other sessions it will be a practical resource to support you.

Emotions Pathway

  • Processing grief
  • Overcoming guilt
  • How to deal with comparison
  • Dealing with transitions for our children
  • Normalising bad days
  • What happens when I die?

This pathway will give you practical and mindset tools to manage your worries for the future so that you can fully enjoy the time you spend with your family.

Emotions Pathway

  • Processing grief
  • Overcoming guilt
  • How to deal with comparison
  • Dealing with transitions for our children
  • Normalising bad days
  • What happens when I die?

This pathway will give you practical and mindset tools to manage your worries for the future so that you can fully enjoy the time you spend with your family.

Advocacy Pathway

  • Advocating with professionals, friends and family.
  • Dealing with the actions and opinions of strangers.
  • Assertive communication when it matters most.
  • Knowing your rights – legal expert session.
  • Completing paperwork for assessment.

This pathway will help you to feel confident and in control of the decisions, appointments, and assessments that affect your child and family.

Time and Space Pathway

  • Spending time with other children guilt-free.
  • S.E.N.D Life from the siblings perspective (an interview with a sibling)
  • Building independence in our children
  • Developing and maintaining relationships and friendships
  • Recognising the value of self-care and practical ways to achieve this

This pathway will help you to reconnect with the person you were before the mum, laugh without guilt and make space for yourself and your family.

What you can expect in ‘More Than a Mum: The Empowerment Pathway’

Bonuses
As part of ‘More Than a Mum’, you will access discounts to events and essential admin templates.
 
Expert sessions
For those who choose to purchase all 3 of the pathways, they will receive access to sessions covering a range of topics such as relationship tips, toileting, sleeping, eating, speech, language, and communication.

With all of this covered, you’ll be able to

  • Manage your worries so that you can fully enjoy the time you spend with your family, not look back with regrets in the future or feel like you are failing.
  • Surround yourself with good people who understand you rather than those with unhelpful or hurtful comments so that you’re not having to waste precious energy proving or defending yourself.
  • Know what to ask and look for in a setting and how to manage transitions so that your child has the best start and support with their education and is happy.
  • Discuss options calmly and assertively with professionals so that you are more included in the decisions made for, and the progress of your child.
  • Reconnect with the adult you were before you became ‘mum’, laugh without guilt and make space for yourself so that you don’t feel resentful of life and have some fun and purpose outside of being a mum.

It took me over six years and a mental breakdown to feel happy in life! I am so excited to be helping you feel all the great stuff without the wasted time and cost to your sanity. I’m already proud of you!

Are you ready to become More Than a Mum? Join the waitlist here.

Is this the course for you?

Timing is important when it comes to getting the right support for you and your family and I only want you to enrol if it will help you now so read on to find out if this membership is a good fit.

This course is for you if

  • You don’t feel present in the moment with your child and family because of worries for the future.
  • You can’t let go of the life you expected and struggle to enjoy your life as it is now.
  • You feel distant from family and friends who don’t understand your situation.
  • Feel consumed at times by the sadness of comparing your life with others.
  • You feel intimidated and find it hard to speak with professionals.
  • You feel guilty a lot of the time because you can’t meet everyone’s needs all of the time.


This course isn’t for you if you’ve got all these covered.

 

  • You enjoy life now but have occasional moments of sadness which pass with time and don’t feel that you need additional support with handling emotions.
  • You are confident in advocating for your child with professionals, family, friends and even strangers and don’t need extra help.
  • You are on top of your appointments and meetings and are aware of what is happening to and for your child, so you have a clear map ahead.
  • You know that time for yourself is important and try whenever possible to make space for yourself and others.

Meet your mentor!

Have we met before?

I’m Charlie Beswick and I would be honoured to be your mentor!

In 2005 when my twin boys were born, I had no idea that Harry would have a rare craniofacial condition called Goldenhar syndrome. For him, this meant that he was born without any features on the left-hand side of his face, and I was instantly plunged into shock, grief, and fear. I was terrified that I wasn’t the mother this baby needed but didn’t feel that I could tell anyone, not even my fiancé. I just hid behind a smile, a coping mechanism that I now call ‘the lie we wear’

Back then there was little support for mothers who received a diagnosis for their child, and I got no help from professionals to help me understand what lay ahead for me and my family.
Over the next four years, Harry was diagnosed as autistic, my marriage ended, I had to reduce my teaching hours and I was diagnosed with depression.
It took time and a lot of inner work on my part to feel like I was a good mum and person again.
Sadly, support for mums hasn’t changed much since 2005. So now, having not only come to terms with a life altered by Harry’s diagnoses but as a woman who is thriving in my role as a mother, I want to ensure that no mum in a similar position to me ever feels as lost and alone as I did.

I want to support strong and healthy maternal well-being at the point of a child’s diagnosis and beyond, to empower mums to realise that their best is more than enough and love a life they may have never expected.

I believe that by mastering our emotions, finding our voices and making time for ourselves and others, we are not only happier women, but we become the mums our children deserve (‘special children’ aren’t sent to special mums but they certainly help to shape us) and we can support and fight for them much more effectively. It’s the system that’s broken, not you!

Finally, I am a lover of rhubarb gin and all cheese, hence the name of our group – plus, the name ‘S.E.N.D help and support’ sounded as dry as the Sahara and I choose fun over dull any day of the week!

What would feeling confident, calm and content in life mean to you and your family?

Back then there was little support for mothers who received a diagnosis for their child, and I got no help from professionals to help me understand what lay ahead for me and my family.
Over the next four years, Harry was diagnosed as autistic, my marriage ended, I had to reduce my teaching hours and I was diagnosed with depression.
It took time and a lot of inner work on my part to feel like I was a good mum and person again.
Sadly, support for mums hasn’t changed much since 2005. So now, having not only come to terms with a life altered by Harry’s diagnoses but as a woman who is thriving in my role as a mother, I want to ensure that no mum in a similar position to me ever feels as lost and alone as I did.

I want to support strong and healthy maternal well-being at the point of a child’s diagnosis and beyond, to empower mums to realise that their best is more than enough and love a life they may have never expected.

I believe that by mastering our emotions, finding our voices and making time for ourselves and others, we are not only happier women, but we become the mums our children deserve (‘special children’ aren’t sent to special mums but they certainly help to shape us) and we can support and fight for them much more effectively. It’s the system that’s broken, not you!

Finally, I am a lover of rhubarb gin and all cheese, hence the name of our group – plus, the name ‘S.E.N.D help and support’ sounded as dry as the Sahara and I choose fun over dull any day of the week!

What would feeling confident, calm and content in life mean to you and your family?

FAQs

How much will it cost?
Sessions are priced individually for those who only want to purchase one or two. Prices range from £20 – £35 per session, and discounts are given for those who buy a complete pathway or the complete course.

How much time do I need?
The pathway sessions aren’t longer than 30 minutes each so there is no pressure to dedicate a certain number of hours. There are resources attached to most sessions and it’s completely up to you when and how much time you give to them. Obviously, the more you can consider the thoughts and feelings that come up, the more this will help you to process things but it’s important to do this at your own pace. This is NEVER designed to add to your workload! You already have enough to do.

What if I’m not on Facebook?
All pathway sessions will be accessible on an independent platform. Facebook is the place for the community where you can discuss and work through things that come up for you. If this aspect of the course is important to you, then you would need a Facebook account.

What if I can’t afford the course right now?
That’s absolutely fine! We have the free SEND Gin & Cheese community which is an amazing space and there are free downloads for you to read too. The course empowers you to build your mental resilience and practical skills and you are welcome to enrol at any time.

Can Dads join?
Dads are welcome to enrol on the course but please bear in mind that it is written from a mother’s perspective and as such, some sessions will feel more relevant than others. This cannot be given as a reason for a refund request. There is a free Facebook community for dads too.

Course cancellation
You are entitled to a refund within 14 days of paying for the full or part course if all or either of the following apply:

  • You feel that you were mis-sold the course and have not completed all the sessions.
  • You have changed your mind about the course (if the course materials have not been accessed as shown on the online portal).
  • If there is a problem accessing the course materials that has not been solved after contacting the provider and giving them the opportunity to support the access.

The amount refunded will be minus the value of the service, admin and material costs that was provided to you up to the point you cancel (Source: Consumer contracts regulations) –  https://www.which.co.uk/consumer-rights/advice/i-want-to-cancel-a-course-i-booked-online-what-are-my-rights-aassz5p3mdCx
Please email charlie@sendginandcheese.org to arrange a refund if required.

More Than a Mum: The Empowerment Pathway.

Important things to note.

Advice and support
I will support you from a place of experience and compassion, but I am not a qualified mental health practitioner and if you or I feel that you need more specialist support, let’s chat about that as a top-up or alternative if you need it.

Course payments
Payments are made before the course materials are delivered to you via the details you provide. Payment plans can be arranged when purchasing the complete course. Please email charlie@sendginandcheese.org if this is something you would like to discuss.

Conduct of members

At times, mums may feel quite vulnerable during the process of excavating some tricky emotions. Because of this, members of the Facebook community are prohibited from contacting each other to promote their own services or products. Doing so will result in removal from the group without a refund.Members must all conduct themselves in a respectful and compassionate manner. Bullying, hate speech, abusive language or unhelpful judgments will result in removal from the community without a refund.

Privacy
There are strict rules that nothing can be shared outside of the group and Facebook members who are not in the membership will not be able to see your posts. If comments are made that are great testimonials for the membership, permission to share will be sought and names removed or changed.

Safeguarding
Lives like ours can sometimes be physically, mentally, and emotionally draining. We ask for a next of kin name and number when you join in the very unlikely event that we become worried about your own welfare and want to ensure you are safe. This would only ever be used in an emergency, but we take our duty of care very seriously in supporting you.

Progress
No guarantee is made about the impact or results achieved in this group.
I want you to find the empowerment and confidence you deserve and while this is simple, it’s not always easy and requires us to work together to move forward. We each have our role in creating a life you love. Let’s do this!

 

FAQs

How much will it cost?
Sessions are priced individually for those who only want to purchase one or two. Prices range from £20 – £35 per session, and discounts are given for those who buy a complete pathway or the complete course.

How much time do I need?
The pathway sessions aren’t longer than 30 minutes each so there is no pressure to dedicate a certain number of hours. There are resources attached to most sessions and it’s completely up to you when and how much time you give to them. Obviously, the more you can consider the thoughts and feelings that come up, the more this will help you to process things but it’s important to do this at your own pace. This is NEVER designed to add to your workload! You already have enough to do.

What if I’m not on Facebook?
All pathway sessions will be accessible on an independent platform. Facebook is the place for the community where you can discuss and work through things that come up for you. If this aspect of the course is important to you, then you would need a Facebook account.

What if I can’t afford the course right now?
That’s absolutely fine! We have the free SEND Gin & Cheese community which is an amazing space and there are free downloads for you to read too. The course empowers you to build your mental resilience and practical skills and you are welcome to enrol at any time.

Can Dads join?
Dads are welcome to enrol on the course but please bear in mind that it is written from a mother’s perspective and as such, some sessions will feel more relevant than others. This cannot be given as a reason for a refund request. There is a free Facebook community for dads too.

Course cancellation
You are entitled to a refund within 14 days of paying for the full or part course if all or either of the following apply:

  • You feel that you were mis-sold the course and have not completed all the sessions.
  • You have changed your mind about the course (if the course materials have not been accessed as shown on the online portal).
  • If there is a problem accessing the course materials that has not been solved after contacting the provider and giving them the opportunity to support the access.

The amount refunded will be minus the value of the service, admin and material costs that was provided to you up to the point you cancel (Source: Consumer contracts regulations) –  https://www.which.co.uk/consumer-rights/advice/i-want-to-cancel-a-course-i-booked-online-what-are-my-rights-aassz5p3mdCx
Please email charlie@sendginandcheese.org to arrange a refund if required.

More Than a Mum: The Empowerment Pathway.

Important things to note.

Advice and support
I will support you from a place of experience and compassion, but I am not a qualified mental health practitioner and if you or I feel that you need more specialist support, let’s chat about that as a top-up or alternative if you need it.

Course payments
Payments are made before the course materials are delivered to you via the details you provide. Payment plans can be arranged when purchasing the complete course. Please email charlie@sendginandcheese.org if this is something you would like to discuss.

Conduct of members

At times, mums may feel quite vulnerable during the process of excavating some tricky emotions. Because of this, members of the Facebook community are prohibited from contacting each other to promote their own services or products. Doing so will result in removal from the group without a refund.Members must all conduct themselves in a respectful and compassionate manner. Bullying, hate speech, abusive language or unhelpful judgments will result in removal from the community without a refund.

Privacy
There are strict rules that nothing can be shared outside of the group and Facebook members who are not in the membership will not be able to see your posts. If comments are made that are great testimonials for the membership, permission to share will be sought and names removed or changed.

Safeguarding
Lives like ours can sometimes be physically, mentally, and emotionally draining. We ask for a next of kin name and number when you join in the very unlikely event that we become worried about your own welfare and want to ensure you are safe. This would only ever be used in an emergency, but we take our duty of care very seriously in supporting you.

Progress
No guarantee is made about the impact or results achieved in this group.
I want you to find the empowerment and confidence you deserve and while this is simple, it’s not always easy and requires us to work together to move forward. We each have our role in creating a life you love. Let’s do this!

 

Are you ready to become More Than a Mum? Join the waitlist now.